Rejoice in the Lord always: and again I say, Rejoice
Often times we all go through hard times. Some go through a lifetime of hard times. We are all here for a purpose. Ask God what your purpose is. Maybe the hard times are because of the choices we make. Ask God for direction and assistance in making the right life choices.
Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content. Philippians 4:11
You have to choose to be happy with your current status of life. All be it may not be what you want. You are looking for a husband or a wife. Now I can go off on that one but all I will say on that is, you have to be happy within yourself first. Another example is you are unemployed, or in heavy debt. Or you are homeless. What you have to do then is to start making life choices and plan how you can make things better. Ask for assistance. Build yourself a good support group. A good support group can be more than just family and friends. Support group can help you network and help you plot a course to a better state in life. Financial planner, debt counselor a job coach. Think outside the box. Anyone who speaks negative to you is not a part of your support group.
Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. Philippians 4:8
This one is a biggie to me. We all get down in the doldrums one time or another and say I should have could have would have. Why me? You waste so much energy thinking on past things and how bad it is. Taking yourself into a pity party. Ok go there for a little while, then release it and start thinking constructively what can I do from this point on. Ask yourself what can I do to make my situation better? What can I do to make my future better?
I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service. Romans 12:1
You ask how is this making me a happy person? To me this is loaded. You should ask for the guidance of our Lord and Savior what is best for me. You are not trying to please everyone else all the time. You do have to take time out for yourself. That time is for you to meditate and spend time working on your personal relationship with God. A time for you to rest rejuvenate an collect yourself. To build up your energies. Donít worry what everyone else thinks of you, but are you pleasing God? You must also learn to say NO. Often times we don't know how to turn down personal assignments that is a request by man. What can happen is you become so over whelmed you find yourself not doing anyone any good and it may not be what God has planed for you.
Meaning what can you do to find happiness? Find something to do that makes you happy. A hobby, a book club group. Find something that gives you an end results, a product or an accomplishment, a new talent. Take up a class, painting, learn a musical instrument. voice lessons.
Gratitude. Remember to be thankful for what you have. Tell others thank you. Take a deep breath look around you and start counting your blessings. Be thankful for being alive! Thankful for your family, friends, Education, job, home be thankful for everything! Being thankful is not being silly, If you live in this country the United States there are others that have way less than you.
Find a charitable organization and devote some of your time helping someone who is less fortunate that you. You will be surprised how fulfilling that can be.
Work at a job that you enjoy! If you have a job that you like/love, can go a long way towards your happiness. Even if the job pays you less money than your original goal. Start your own business! There is nothing more fulfilling than being your own boss!
From my personal experience working less hours and having the weekends off means a lot more than earning extra more money. If at all possible if your job is not one of the emergency services agencies such as the police, fire department, hospital then there should be no reason for you to be called on the weekend about the job. Unless you are in management position and there is a breach in the office building.
Most important treat others with respect and convey the understanding the you require that same respect back.
Do not have that Ďget evení attitude.
Perform one act of kindness a week. Or one a month, at least once in a while. It does not have to be big it does not have to be expensive. My rule is make sure it is not expensive. A phone call to someone you know who is shut in (illness). Sent a note card saying you are thinking about someone. I did prayer tea cards with a herbal tea bag in it. All of my recipients said the cards came at a time they needed it.
Tell someone they look nice (donít lie) If you cannot find anything good to say about them donít say anything at all. Better yet tell them to have a great day, speak blessings to them. Positive affirmations.Iím not claiming that I have the end all to having total happiness. We were created to have emotions. If you find yourself spending a lot of time being unhappy. Not necessarily sad just not happy about anything. Negative try some of the above suggestions.
If your find yourself feeling sad, worthless, cannot sleep at night, your thoughts racing to the point that sleep escapes you. That could be a sign of depression SEEK PROFESIONAL HELP. Contact your nearest health care professional.
Last of all, take care of yourself. You only get one body in your lifetime. Cherish that body. Eat healthy get your 9 to 11 servings of fruit and vegetables each day. Use meat as a condiment not your main or only course. Get your proper rest. The average human body requires 8 hours of sleep each night. Watch a child who has not gotten enough sleep. That child is cranky, he cries, fret and may even through a temper tantrum. Watch a child that is hungry, he whines yanks at his parent's arm, clothes what ever he can reach. He cannot function until he eats. We adults know better than to behave like a child when we are hungry or tired. We just ignore it and keep on going. Most times when we do not feel well our disposition is rotten. Why do I say this? We are marvelously and fearfully created take care of the body that you live in. A healthy body helps happy feelings. When you feel good, look good that can lead to feeling happy.